How To Use Chaos To Win More Negotiations – Negotiation Tip of the Week

Chaos is thought to be bad in situations. That’s because most people like peace and serenity in their environment. The latter is why you can win more negotiations by using chaos properly and at the right time.

Continue reading to discover how you can use chaos to win more negotiations.

Defining Chaos:

Before attempting to deploy chaos in your negotiation, you need to understand what the other negotiator perceives to be chaos. If she’s an astute negotiator, one that’s accustomed to dealing with lots of negotiation tactics and strategies, she may not be flustered by your attempts to instill chaos into the negotiation. As such, she may identify your efforts as the tactic that it is and turn it against you. On the other hand, if she’s someone that seeks nonconfrontational environments, you can attempt to use chaos as a way to make her conform to your plan for the negotiation.

Serenity:

If serenity is sought by the opposing negotiator, insert chaotic situations into the negotiation when he seeks serenity the most (e.g. things are going well and you make an outlandish request that you know he’d never accept). You would do this to test his fortitude as to what he’ll accept and what he’ll fight for. Therefore, the degree and kind of chaos used should be determined by the amount of pressure you’re attempting to cast upon him, which in part is dependent on his level of tolerance for chaos. Remember, this tactic works best if the other negotiator is somewhat tired or worn-down. He’ll be more susceptible to this tactic when he’s in such a physiological state because he’ll be deprived of his mental clarity and agility due to his diminished state of awareness and consciousness.

Predictability:

Don’t be predictable, unless you want to be perceived as being predictable.

People love to deal with others that are predictable. They don’t mind if someone is good or bad as defined by the situation you’re applying the definition to. All they seek is predictability. That’s because, when someone is predictable less mental effort is required to predict their potential behavior.

To use predictability as a supplement to chaos, zig when you’re expected to zag. Then, if the opposing negotiator suspects you’re zigging when you’re expected to zag, change up again by doing exactly what he expected you to do. Once he feels he ‘understands your pattern’, you can restart the unexpected zigging and zagging. By doing so, you’ll decrease your predictability and cause additional angst in him, which will lead him to become more disdainful of the negotiation. Given that fact, you should be in a power position when doing so (i.e. able to engage in such actions without retribution), because you need to be somewhat accurate with your predictions of how he’ll react to your efforts. Thus, if predictability as an aide to chaos is not used adroitly, you could end up sending the negotiation into a tailspin. That might prove to be chaotic for you.

In your negotiations, if you use chaos as a tool in which serenity resides on the other side and the other negotiator seeks serenity as the result of you doing so, you’ll definitely win more negotiations… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating.

Self Improvement and Living in the Present Moment

Having clear goals and desires for our future, and planning for their fulfilment are vital steps if we are serious about self improvement and achievement.

Delayed gratification is something that is practiced by many successful people, even if they aren’t aware of it. In simple terms, delayed gratification means making sacrifices now in order to achieve greater rewards in the future.

Most successful people become successful because they take actions and make sacrifices that less successful people are not prepared to do or make. However, in order to live a well rounded life and enjoy a rewarding lifestyle, we also need to be able to make the most of where we are at any given time.

Most of us have on ongoing internal dialogue within our minds, even if we aren’t aware of it. We rehash events that have happened to us in the past and replay them in our minds, both good and bad. We also visualise events that we expect to happen to us in the future, both good and bad. When we’re at work we spend time thinking about our domestic lives, and when we’re at home we think about our problems at work. If we’re not careful our days can slip by without us really noticing.

This can happen so easily, that we sometimes need to make a concerted effort to enjoy each present moment – or run the risk of depriving ourselves of a lot of pleasure. Planning for the future is essential, and we can all learn from the past. However, savouring the present moment and enjoying the simple pleasures, like a beautiful sunset, or the joy of a laughing child, or a walk on a deserted beach with a loved one, can make our lives infinitely richer.

Self Improvement Quote of the Day:

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

How Should I Present Myself On The First Date – Attractive Behaviours of Women on A First Date

First dates are exciting. The mystery of how your date is going to be like is sending butterflies into your stomach. At the same time, you are probably also wondering, ‘how should I present myself on the first date?’ Well the fact that you’re going out with this guy shows that you are attracted to him – so I guess you probably won’t want to mess this up right? You will do just fine by following these tips I’m about to share with you.

Having dated several times before I got engaged, I’ve been to quite a number of ‘first dates’. Needless to say, there were good and bad experiences and along the way, I took note of what kind of behaviour is attractive to a man and what is not. The key is to So let me share them with you.

Attractive Behaviour of Women on A First Date:

  1. Participate in the conversation. What a man likes is to be heard. He will feel that what he is saying isn’t boring you and it gives him a HUGE confidence boost. So, respond to his comments and or questions about the topic the both of you are on and if you are not familiar with the topic, ask him about it! It will give him more things to talk about and you won’t have to be afraid of the situation where there are awkward silences.
  2. Be enthusiastic but not overly enthusiastic. Being enthusiastic during first dates is always a plus point. For example, if the man suggests catching a movie after the meal, go ahead with it. And since he’s decided the program, you have the choice of movie. However, if you’re really tired after a long day provide him with an alternative and let him know that you’re tired – being honest about what you want and feel is essential for a healthy relationship.
  3. Dress up according to the occasion. This is one of the most crucial tip on how you should present yourself on the first date. You see, men are visual beings. The first thing he will take note when you arrive at the date is your physical appearance. It will indicate to him how much you want to have this date with him and if he sense that you aren’t, there is a very high chance that this date may not work out. So, dress according to the occasion and if you aren’t sure what to wear, ask your girlfriends to help you.