Trauma: Can Someone Project Their Past Onto Their Present If They Experienced Trauma As A Child?

There are a number of reasons as to why someone would reach out for the support of a therapist or a counsellor. Still, if someone was to take this step, it could show that they are going through tough a time and can no longer handle what is going on.

Perhaps they are experiencing a fair amount of fear and anxiety, making it difficult for them to relax and to embrace life. For most of their life, they may have been fine, but now life will be a challenge.

Nothing New

Then again, their life may have been this for as long as they can remember. For one reason or another, then, they will have decided that enough is enough and that something needs to be done.

In this case, one might not be able to imagine what their life would be like if they no longer felt so tense and were able to feel at ease. Yet, even if this is so, it won’t have stopped them from trying to do something about how they experience life.

The Next Step

Now, irrespective of how long someone has experienced life in this way for, they are going to want their life to change. It might not matter how they change their life either, as long as it doesn’t stay the same.

When they work with a therapist or a counsellor, for instance, the focus could be on what is taking place in their mind. This person could ask them to talk about what thoughts they usually have and what they focus on.

The Main Area

They could soon be told that they need to change what is taking place in their mind in order to experience life differently. What is going on there could even be described as irrational and having no basis in reality.

So, if they were to take a step back and to detach from what is taking place in their mind, they may see that there is no reason for them to be on edge or to live on the sidelines. Their mind will be playing tricks on them and the sooner that they realise this, the better.

No Foundations

Therefore, unless they are told that what is taking place in their mind is the result of what they believe, for instance, it will be as though their thoughts are just appearing out of nowhere and that they just focus on certain things. There will be nothing that is taking place at a deeper level that they will need to look into.

Unlike a weed that will be supported by a deep root, there will be no deep roots that are sustaining what is taking place in their mind. Ergo, as they change what is going on up top, the rest of their life should also change.

A New Beginning

Through working on what is taking place in their mind in the company of their therapist/ counsellor and in their own time, they may find that they start to settle down and to become more involved in life. If this does take place, they could be amazed by how different their life is.

Additionally, they could sleep better, find it easier to concentrate, and their memory could improve, amongst other things. Conversely, this approach might not work or if it does, it might only work for a short while.

An Unexpected Outcome

If their life only changes for a short while, they could come to conclude that their life will never change. It might seem as though they were just dreaming and now they have woken up.

On the other hand, if their life didn’t change at all, they could experience a deep sense of helplessness. The key at this point will be for them to get back on their feet and to look for another way to change their life.

Going Deeper

If they were to keep going, what they may come to see is that what is taking place in their mind is just a small part of what is going on. What could lead to this understanding is if they were to get in touch with what is taking place further down – their body.

By connecting to this part of their being, what they may find is that there is a scared child inside them. Without knowing it, this child self will have been influencing how their adult self perceived the world.

The Past Is Present

With this in mind, it makes sense as to why it will have been so hard for them to feel at ease and to embrace life. Ultimately, their childhood years will be firmly in the past, but they will still be carrying the impact of what took place all those years ago.

This could have been a time in their life when there was one thing that traumatised them or this may have been a time when they were traumatised on a regular basis. The years would have passed, causing them to lose touch with what took place, but what took place would still have seeped into their conscious mind.

Self-Knowledge

If they hadn’t tried another approach, it wouldn’t have been possible for them to see that they were projecting their past onto their present. This can be seen as their minds way of getting them to acknowledge what is taking place inside them so that they can resolve it and become more integrated in the process.

The trouble is that unless one has developed an observer self and is able to tune into what is taking place inside them, they won’t be able to connect the dots, so to speak. Their focus will be on what is taking place ‘out there’, which can cause them to see themselves as a powerless victim.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to work with a therapist or a healer. This will give them the chance to explore what is taking place in their body and to acknowledge it.

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, three hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

How to Effectively Present All of Your IT Skills

Effectively present all of your IT skills with the IT Technical Skills Summary – an exceptionally powerful document that should form part of every resume submitted.

The IT Technical Skills Summary ensures that every IT skill you have acquired – computer software, computer hardware, applications software, and so on, will be indexed in resume databases or viewed by hiring managers or recruiters. It will prove to be a valuable tool in helping you to get the job interview that will lead to the right job.

The layout uses 4-columns to allow you to effectively present a complete, quantified, qualified, very easy to read, summary of the IT technical skills and experience that you have acquired over the course of your career.

The 4-column layout enables an employer to quickly scan, in a matter of seconds, the complete document to see if you have the technical skills and experience that they need.

Resume databases are used by most recruiters, headhunters and employers. Every word – every skill – that is included in a resume is indexed when your resume is added to the database. If the skill or experience is not inlcuded in your resume because you have edited your resume down to one or two pages then vital skills that may get you interviewed are missing.

The IT Technical Skills Summary ensures that your resume is database ready and that each and every skill that you have worked so hard to acquire will be indexed when your resume is entered or scanned into a resume database.

When is searched is done for a required skill, or set of skills, your name will be part of the top search listings – if your skills match the skill-set needed.

Your acquired skills are what make you unique and of potential value to an employer. Differentiate yourself. What is considered an acquired skill? Just reading a book about something does not count as an acquired skill.

Generally, to be considered “acquired” the skill has been used in a work environment, in unpaid work done for a volunteer organization or learned through formal instruction in a school, college, university or on-the-job training. Of course, there are always exceptions and the skill could have been acquired through self-study and work.

People are constantly bombarded with the idea that a resume should only be one or two pages long. Nonsense. The number of pages required will depend on how long you have been working and how many skills you have acquired. The greater the number of years worked and the greater the number of skills acquired, the more pages required.

It cannot be too long if the IT Technical Skills Summary includes the skills that you have acquired over the course of your career.

You need to present your skills so that employers and recruiters know that you have them. You have worked hard and made a large investment of time and money to acquire your skills.

So get out your pen and begin to write down every skill that you have acquired and prepare your own IT Technical Skills Summary.

Richard E Ward is a Sounding Board, Communications Consultant,Guide who uses his eclectic experience in life, business, government and holistic healing to help his clients. He has more than 40 years experience as a personal coach, guide, sounding board, author, political organizer, communications consultant, business owner, headhunter and shamanic practitioner.

Christmas Presents Or Christ’s Divine Presence? Christmas Gone Awry, When For Presents We Do Cry

Surely Christmas has gone desperately awry
When for presents we do manipulate and cry
While entirely neglecting the reason why
Christ the Savior of the world was born
Did humbly come to earth and was crucified
Died for a sinful humanity and rose miraculously
Yet most in the world only celebrate the baby
Christ the King born in a humble manger
However only remembering Him as such
Is by far more odd, awkward, and stranger
To not embrace the fullness of the blessing of Christ
Being forgetful of His supreme blood sacrifice
When He died on the cross of crucifixion
To liberate and give us newness of life
Why then all the commercialism and materialism
When we commemorate and remember His birth
Have we forgotten the King of kings divine worth
The awesomeness of His mighty, powerful Presence
Seeking to replace it with something called presents
Wherein we lose the precious value of the divine
Passing by the importance of peace within sublime
Opting and preferring shopping with greed’s slime
Seduction, attraction, and evil consumeristic allure
Of this one thing I am sure. We have lost the meaning
Of the blessed Christ and the season called Christmas
As we salivate and refuse to hesitate to restrain ourselves
From pursuing gifts under the tree, while we simultaneously
Sway in instability having been robbed of inner tranquility
Which we’ve replaced with stuff and things materially
That mesmerize and leave us afterward feeling empty
Therefore as for me and my family, give us divine Presence
Because Christ’s divine Presence is the most special present
Any person or family could receive and embrace daily
Hence a gift exchange of presents for divine Presence
Is always blessed and bestows gifts of divine intangibility.
I pray the warmth of Christ’s Spirit will help you feel and see
The wonders of Christmas today, tomorrow, and eternally.